the fresh perspective…

I AM NOT MY HAIR

IMG_4796I would like to have a bit of an open discussion about hair.  To be more specific, a **black woman’s hair.  I’ve been styling for over 15 years and have never felt that my hair was defining me everyday.  When I cut it off a few months back, I didn’t realize the backlash that would ensue… My husband hated it, and some clients felt like I would be making a huge mistake.  Some people even said, ‘too bad, she’s a pretty girl…’.  I’m not sure I understood that when I was born, it was my duty to choose only hairstyles that would be comforting to all the human beings on earth.  Me choosing to cut my hair has offended some…  I didn’t realize that cutting off MY OWN HAIR, would bring so many opinions up.

IMG_1561What I find truly confusing is how many people have told me that they think it looks great!  Are they lying?  Do they think I went too far?  My question to you is this, “Does your hair make you who you are?”.  Do you agree with the fact that society has tried to mold us to feel like if we don’t do things this way then that will happen?  Are any of you black ladies in agreement with me or not?  Do you think your hair is you? White ladies, do you think that hair is that important or not?  Also boys, what say you here?  Do you feel like I’ve touched on something?

what?!

what?!

One of my co-workers told me of a story of a young white girl who had braids done in her hair and so many black girls lashed out saying, ‘you gotta take our hairstyle too?!  why can’t we have our own thing?’.  Ummmm, WHAT?!  No race or nationality owns hair!  You own your hair and no one else…  I’d really like to know what y’all think, Caucasian and African American/Canadian or any other race for that matter…

That’s the fresh perspective….

**I use the term ‘black’ and ‘white’ loosely.  I do not mean to offend anyone, I’m just not the best typist and find using those terms easier on my fingers than using the terms Caucasians or African American/Canadian.  I know the terms used in this article are not politically correct and once again I mean not to offend.**

10 thoughts on “the fresh perspective…

  1. Praise your head, hands, feet, face, and most especially heart and mind, look amazing. Haters gonna hate. Love who you are and define yourself. Your hair is but a small part of the amazing womanhood.

  2. Shannon and I (from Waterloo Design House) saw you briefly as you left Starbucks a few days ago. You were wearing a hat is I didn’t know you had cut your hair. All I saw was your incredible smile and amazing sense of smile. Hair doesn’t define you. YOU define you.

  3. Such a good post. It’s interesting the way “only hair” is actually a big part of how we see ourselves (and how others see us too). As you know, I’m planning to go embrace my grey, and I am surprised at hiw NERVOUS I am about it!

    And Miranda & Holly are right, you are so much more than hair! YOU define you! 🙂

  4. I’m new to finding your blog and already like your writing style and the piece of who you are that you share here. You seem open minded, down to earth, fun, and caring of others. That makes you, never your hair. You look amazing (no lies) with no hair as it makes your features pop. Hair doesn’t define anyone but society tends to expect things of us and as long as we continue to fall in line nothing will change. I like to do for me what I like not taking into account others comments because the end of the day they have no place in our heads while we look at ourselves in the mirror.

  5. I think you’re hair is great! It’s certainly an expression of who you are, so walk that path and enjoy yourself. I fully advocate all women, but especially black women, owning their own physical bodies and expressing themselves as their hearts see fit. Makes me smile. 🙂 Everyone around you will just have to adapt!

    As far as the white girl with braids thing, it doesn’t really bother me, but cultural appropriation is indeed a “thing”. So much of what black women of the diaspora are, ends up being appropriated in various forms and that certainly includes hair. I’m not sure what the landscape is like in Canada, but here in the US hairstyles will be considered dirty, unkempt, unprofessional on black women, but will be called “cool, edgy, stylish and original” on whites. It’s definitely a thing. I don’t agree with calling anybody out over it (at least not an individual level) but I’m certainly not blind to where that sentiment may have been coming from.

    • Thanks for your comment Deze! It’s funny how perception and reality are sometimes soooo different. I’m not sure that things will really change but talking about is a start.

      -p

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